Anger Management

Shravan is a high profile executive working for a leading multinational. An affable person with a formidable education, his colleagues think highly of him. His wife did not think so. Reason being physical abuse. He wants to project a nice image of himself at the work place and so the mismanaged anger and displeasure at the work place takes the form of wife beating.

Take your feelings seriously. They provide signals that hold information for you. Feelings are meant to be felt, understood, explored and then released. Some people run away from their bad feelings and then the feelings stick around. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand and use your feelings to get along well in your life. Emotional Intelligence has been found to be far more important than IQ, technical skills or experience in how you succeed in the business world. People who learn and use the skills of Emotional Intelligence deal better with their stress, anger and anxiety and have happier, more satisfying lives.

Anger is probably the most poorly handled emotion in our society. From time to time we all experience this very powerful feeling. Some of the common causes of anger include frustration, hurt, annoyance, disappointment, harassment and threats. It is helpful to realize that anger can be our friend or foe, depending on how we express it. Knowing how to recognize and express it appropriately can help us to reach goals, handle emergencies, solve problems and even protect our health. However, failure to recognize and understand our anger may lead to a variety of problems.

Some experts believe that suppressed anger is an underlying cause of both anxiety and depression. Anger that is not expressed can disrupt relationships, affect thinking and behavior patterns, and create a variety of physical problems, such as high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders, and digestive problems. What's even worse is the correlation between the dangers of uncontrolled anger and crime, emotional and physical abuse, and other violent behaviour.

Here are some other things you can do when you start to feel angry:

* talk to a friend you can trust
* count to 10
* get or give a hug
* beat up a pillow because the pillow can't get hurt
* draw a picture of your anger
* play a video game
* walk around the outside of the house five times as fast as you can
* sing along with the music system
* pull weeds in the garden
* think good thoughts (maybe about a fun vacation)
* take a bike ride

Never getting angry is impossible. Instead, remember that how you act when you're angry can make the situation better or worse. And the bottom line is--> You can’t feel good by making others feel bad.